{"id":54,"date":"2025-11-10T10:48:22","date_gmt":"2025-11-10T10:48:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/miiahuitti.com\/?p=54"},"modified":"2025-11-10T12:47:31","modified_gmt":"2025-11-10T12:47:31","slug":"maitolasin-kaatuminen-ja-psykososiaalinen-stressi-miten-lapsuus-elaa-mukana-tyoelamassa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/miiahuitti.com\/?p=54","title":{"rendered":"Milk-glass tipping and psychosocial stress \u2013 how childhood lives on in working life?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>\u201cI never, by the way, drop a glass of milk.\u201d<br>It sounds funny, but for many it may be a lifelong survival strategy. The pursuit of perfection, constant performance, and merciless inner dialogue may stem from childhood little moments \u2013 like when we spilled a glass of milk on the table and what followed in our family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Childhood builds our story \u2013 also in working life<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Our podcast guest Jouni Veijalainen described how childhood experiences \u2013 for example how we were treated in moments of failure \u2013 can shape the entire adult stress\u2010regulation system. If a small child was loaded with feelings of shame for mistakes, they easily learn:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>\u201cI mustn\u2019t fail, in order to be acceptable.\u201d<br>This internal script may appear as over\u2010conscientious perfectionism in adulthood, continual performance, and difficulty to humanly accept mistakes. In working life this may mean a person does more than they have capacity for, hides their fatigue and keeps up appearances \u2013 until the last moment.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Shame or compassion?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Shame is a powerful social feeling, and as Jouni reminded us, shame destroys \u2013 compassion builds. If a child experiences that after a mistake they are bad, shame attaches to the self. But if after a mistake one receives the message: \u201cThis happens, it\u2019s okay,\u201d a completely different internal dialogue develops.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The good news is that these patterns are not lifelong. As an adult we can pause and ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>How was I treated as a child when I made a mistake?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How do I talk to myself now when I make a mistake?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>From whom could I learn a gentler way of relating to myself?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Psychosocial stress does not only arise from hurry<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Often the cause of stress is thought to be workload or a too tight schedule. But as the podcast also noted, psychosocial stress often arises from what it is like to be in relationships, what messages we receive or imagine we receive, and how harsh we are with ourselves. It can be the small gasp in a meeting we interpret as belittling. Or an empty glance we read as rejection. In reality most of these situations are innocent \u2013 but our internal interpreter, the \u201calarm system\u201d wired in childhood, may see them as threats.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What if you were enough already now?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you feel nothing external is enough \u2013 a new title, good feedback, success \u2013 maybe it\u2019s time to pause and ask:<br>Whose approval am I still seeking?<br>What if I were enough already now?<br>We can learn to recognise the roots of stress, accept our own history and build a different kind of gentleness. And as Jouni said in the podcast:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThe moment you wake up is also the moment healing begins.\u201d<br>Go listen to the <em>Tame Stress<\/em> podcast episode on psychosocial stress and tell what thoughts it stirred in you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cI never, by the way, drop a glass of milk.\u201dIt sounds funny, but for many it may be a lifelong survival strategy. 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